The Way Of The Wise

Ben Zoma says:

  Who is wise?

  The one who learns from every person…

  Who is brave?

  The one who subdues his negative inclination…

  Who is rich?

  The one who appreciates what he has…

  Who is honored?

  The one who gives honor to others…

  (Talmud - Avot 4:1)

Wisdom is the ability to connect information by seeing the whole picture, drawing the right conclusions and implementing the knowledge accumulated. 

A wise man chooses to eliminate pain and suffering by learning from the experience of others. 

A wise man bears the fruit of humility, self control, problem solving, kindness, compassion, patience and generosity. 

The wise are not quick to anger but to the contrary; They connect to wisdom by exercising tolerance. 

The wise are rich with knowledge because they never cease to learn nor do they feel they know it all. 

A wise man does not allow his emotions to rule his life. Instead, he observes and welcomes the opportunity to gain insight.  

Be a wise man, take advantage of all resources, and wealth of information available at your fingertips. 

Much love 

Estee 💟  

How To Create A Special Bond With The One You Love

How is it possible we suddenly fall out of love with someone we once we're in love with? Is love like a switch we can turn on or off? 

Love is a conscious choice we make and it is not based on feelings or emotions. 

It seems the love that parents have for their children is as close to unconditional love as we can get without the help of the Creator's love in our lives. 

Why is it that we can still love our children when they misbehave but we don't have the same tolerance for a significant other? 

Only as a result of invested effort a person can experience true love in his or her life.

We cannot possibly uphold and maintain a loving relationship when we care only for ourselves, our needs, and desires. We must have a sincere interest in understanding and caring for the needs of others.

The words we use to communicate can result in either life or death; Kind words can uplift and elevate, while maliciousness can weaken and destroy us from within.

A person whom we have hurt or offended is harder to win back than a fortified city; therefore we should always think before we speak. 

We should always remember that once words come out of our mouths we cannot take them back. Condemnation, blame, arguments, and disagreements separate us as if there's a locked gate around our hearts.

The human spirit can endure a sick body, but who can bear a crushed spirit?

We must always be ready and willing to listen, learn, and open our eyes and hearts to what others are trying to communicate to us; When our loved ones become angry or irritated, instead of reacting to what was said, we should stop and ask ourselves, what does he/she really need from me right now? 

Often times all that one needs is to just listen and be present, instead of defending our different points of view or placing blame. 

A special bond doesn't just happen. Once we are lucky enough to have love in our lives, we must handle it delicately with tremendous care as if it were a baby. We must treasure it in order to make it grow and evolve. That is how we create a loving and harmonious relationship. 

Love comes as a result of concerted efforts to do good upon our loved ones. It can exist only by taking thoughtful action. 

All of the above cannot materialize if you don't firstly consider the following; 

The way you treat yourself is the foundation of how you treat others; Love always begins with you! 

You must love yourself first in order to love others. Love is a two-way street of giving and receiving. 

You can't give something you don't have! 

You can’t give away the gift of love unless you possess it first within yourself.  

You can’t receive and accept love if you don’t feel deep inside that you deserve it.

In order to persist in your quest for true love, you must also find an unstoppable, ever-present emotional power source that keeps you going through the inevitable challenges and setbacks in romantic relationships.

Much love 💟

Estee Levinson, Relationship Communication Strategist - Creating harmonious communication, one relationship at a time.

Create The Life You Love

You have the ability to come up with creative ideas worthy of your attention, but if you don't take the next step forward nothing will ever materialize. 

Don't dismiss your cherished desires and drive for success! Keep your inner flame burning. 

Fight for your dreams - that's the only way to achieve what you want! When you accept this knowledge and belief as the ultimate truth, nothing can stop you from making your dreams a reality. 

The future comes moment by moment, one day at a time. Major changes in life don't just happen - you must do the very best that you you can in order to accomplish your life goals. 

Change can be difficult at times, but within it you'll reveal all the wonders of life. 

Life is like an efficient kitchen: it provides for you all the "materials" that you need. Your job, as the master chef, is to combine all the ingredients and create your own signature dish.

Taking action is what gets things done. If you sit around waiting for stuff to magically fall into your lap, you will end up feeling stuck and frustrated.

YOU must create the life you love. 

Don't be afraid to jump in with both feet; It's YOUR life we're talking about! 

Utilize your creative power - uncover the artistic expression you were meant to be. 

Embrace each and every moment - it is perfectly designed for your growth and expansion.

Much love 

Estee 💟

The Missing GAP To A Healthy Relationship

A key ingredient to maintaining a healthy and loving relationship is the ability to communicate effectively. We need to be clear on what we hope to achieve out of the relationship, as well as have the ability to communicate it to each other. This is because communication styles have been observed as predictors of healthy relationships.

The challenge becomes significant in a manner that, once an intimate bond is formed with a significant other, there is no manual that tells us, "this is what you should or shouldn't do", right? 

Perhaps the time has come to uncover the truth, in order to have the relationship you always dreamed of. 

So my question is, when was the last time you took a good look at your intimate partnership? Do you find yourself complaining about what your partner is not doing or saying; or are you actively looking at what you can do in order to improve things? 

Can you clearly identify what is causing friction in your relationship? 

Do you regularly express how you feel, or do you leave it unexpressed? 

One of the causes for failed relationships is the inability to meet expectations. 

The solution is… if you want to feel connected and have more loving moments with your significant other, you must be willing to take positive action to achieve what you most desired. 

In order to have a successful partnership, it is of utmost importance to be aware of one’s expectations, and have them clearly stated on both sides. Make sure you have a wider look. 

The following are some of the parameters to consider:

Do your best to simplify the agreement and list all expectation processes by breaking it down to specific needs, wants and desires. 

A written agreement may be an effective tool to achieve success in relationships. 

• What does he expect from me and what do I expect from him?

• How much time and attention are you willing to compromise and sacrifice for the common goal? 

• How many hours a day do I expect him to be thinking of me? How much is reasonable and how much is unrealistic? 

• What does the other person accept or reject? 

• What are you willing to give and receive?

This will alleviate a lot of friction and arguments. We express our feelings and communicate more instead of staying resentful because our needs are not being met. 

The next step is to identify any emotional or behavioral patterns to discern the best antidote in order to interrupt them. 

When you become aware of a pattern, it will enable you to have more self-control in any relationship. 

Make this a practice, change will disrupt any pattern. 

The Importance of Adapting  

We don't like change, we resist it. It feels uncomfortable, because change is associated with fear and taking a risk, but it is necessary for growth and positive results. 

We want to be safe, so we make a predetermined choice not wanting to change. 

We must do exactly what we resist. 

Consequential Thought

This is what will be possible in your life: 

Any pattern disruption will increase flow in your life.  

Structuring and honoring your agreements could cause a paradigm shift. 

Once you open the line of communication and create a dialogue, feelings can be expressed more easily. 

It's a valuable key to creating more harmonious and loving relationships. 

Give yourself credit for every step you take - take small steps. Every small movement makes a big change. 

Make an agreement to trust your instincts and listen to your inner voice more closely. 

Much love

Estee 💟