FINDING PURPOSE IN PAIN

There is a reason for pain. It's critical to realize that when we experience pain, it is a direct result of the reason. Our perception of the world determines the meaning we attach to hardship and how we relate to it. Pain teaches us valuable lessons that build and shape our character. The advantage is using the opportunity to develop courage and resourcefulness. When we experience pain, it can affect us negatively or positively. It depends on the level of our understanding. Sometimes pain makes us feel a sense of self-righteousness which can cause anger. Even when anger is justified it rarely serves any purpose. To the contrary, if we allow anger to consume our thoughts, it will eat us up alive. Instead of permitting pain to control our mind, it is healthier to transform it into a life lesson. This shift in thought process will have a positive affect on us, as well as those around us. If we internalize the lesson that pain teaches us, we can turn our worst situation into our greatest asset. This enables us to realize that pain presents itself as an opportunity for growth. Here are some tips to implement this process: Acknowledge how you feel, then release the negativity that prevents you from feelings that bring out the best in you. You can't get rid of pain by exercising vengeance or that would be contributing to what was done to you. Instead, look for a way to overcome hurt in order to gain a greater perspective. By finding an empowering meaning behind pain, it will enable you to understand the lesson it teaches in order inspire others to follow your example. Connect to goodness, love and unity in order to discover the purpose of pain. Much love Estee 💟

Challenge Yourself to Take the Initiative. Your Life Depends on It.

We have a choice to take responsibility for our happiness and influence those around us with positive energy. 

There are those who make the world a better place and because they make a difference, the world still exists. 

"LAMED VAV ZADDIKIM (Heb. ל״ו צַדִּיקִים, "36 righteous men"), the minimal number of anonymous righteous men living in the world in every generation. They are privileged to see the Divine Presence, and the world exists on their merit." https://www.jewishvirtuallibrary.org/jsource/judaica/ejud_0002_0012_0_11784.htmla

God is behind everything. However, we can't just rely on God's grace to "make things better" for us. 

We must make a conscious effort to change, take action and transcend beyond life's trials and tribulation. God created us and everything else, with the intent to share His goodness and love. We were gifted with the same ability; to create. What we do with this gift is entirely up to us. 

We can wake up to a chaotic world (hell) or to a world of beauty and grace (heaven), it's our choice.  

Deuteronomy 30:19 

"This day I call the heavens and the earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live."

If you are able to transform and transcend the "curse", it will become a blessing. It is a matter of awareness. (One's level of awareness). 

We "awaken" once we recognize that our inner energy affects every aspect of our lives.. We realize that if we do not invest in being happy and content, it will have a direct affect on our lives accordingly. 

Isn't it better to be happy? Isn't it a sham to waste our lives on mediocrity? Why be average when you are meant for so much more? 

If you are putting your happiness on hold, until everything is good, you will be  waiting endlessly. 

If you feel that your life does not produce happiness, it's because something is not working properly; perhaps you are investing your energy in the wrong place.

What if you see yourself as a business whose biggest profit is drawn from feelings of pleasure and joy? 

How will this mindset change your thinking and behavior? 

Will it allow you to rise above the "curses" and turn them into blessings? 

Below are some tips to help you elevate to a higher standard of living:

* Take responsibility for your life.

*  Be open to learn from and make the best out of each experience and encounter.

* Know your core values and act according to what you believe is right.

* Invest your energy in doing everything with joy and purity of heart.

* Project positive energy.

* Be grateful for everything. 

* Show kindness and graciousness even when under duress. 

* Although you cannot see it, the whole world is joining forces to support you in every way. 

* Give your very best and let God do the rest.

If you'd like to explore this area in greater depth, please don't hesitate to contact me. 

Much love 

Estee 💟

Create a Positive Change and Transform Your Life

Creating positive change in yourself is not an easy task. But if you see it as a chore, you'll never succeed. Your attitude and focus can make or break your efforts to better yourself. 

What is standing in your way? 

What are you telling yourself?

Your emotional state is what counts most. When you make an attempt to solve your problem, take notice of your thought process. Ask yourself where's my focus now? Am I focused on something that I want or don't want? If it doesn't bring you any benefit, shift your focus to the positive. 

In order to create a productive state of mind use these valuable tips:

The first step to solving your challenges/problems is having the desire to find a solution, so you can FEEL better. 

Recognize what you're up against, but don't let it define who you are. It's just a part of the whole. See it for what it is, not bigger than it is. 

Let go of trying to be perfect, but rather do your best to correct and learn how to handle the imperfections. 

Take responsibility for what your life is about. Assign yourself to be the master of your destiny.  

Focus on what you want, not what you DON'T. Learn what drives you most, use that fire of your enthusiasm to move you forward. 

Find your individual gift, a source of strength that comes naturally. 

It has to be something that makes you happy, provides value to others and has a meaning that empowers you.     

Even though you're not quite there, now is the time to begin modeling the behavior you wish to adopt. It will help transform your life in the process. 

Show gratefulness for everything, become aware of how blessed you are.

Much love 

Estee 💟

The Time Is Now

Place your right hand over your heart and tell me, do you feel your heart beating? 

I imagine that you are able to or else you wouldn't be reading these words. 

You're heart is beating, this means that you are alive! You still have the opportunity to better yourself and enrich the lives of others. 

You can make peace, not war. Life is short, don't waste your time and energy in vain; Make every moment count! 

If you find yourself feeling unworthy of being loved and appreciated, place your right hand on you're heart and tell yourself; "I am alive!" 

"I give thanks before you, living and existing King, for restoring my soul to me, compassionately, great is your trustworthiness." (Morning prayer) 

If God himself shows trustworthiness in you, how can you deny it?! 

When you feel the life within, beating and pulsating in a perfect rhythm, it will cancel any doubts and reinforce your self worth. 

"The time is NOW to take ownership of your place in the world."

Much love 

Estee 💟

How to Benefit From Our Ability to Think, Feel and Act.

Is it true that when we sin (break the law) we get punished? What would happen if every time, we are "bad" or do any wrongful act we would immediately "get slapped??" Would there be anyone left in the world?

Fortunately, that is not how things work. The world we live in, is a world of kindness, compassion and unconditional love. God created the world for one purpose; so we can enjoy, relish and benefit from everything existing around us.

When we overstep boundaries, violate universal laws or do anything that goes against moral principles, it is not God that punishes us, it is ourselves. 

In hindsight, we all make mistakes that we regret. However our conscience whispers to us the truth. We can escape the long arm of the law, but we can not escape ourselves.

We are given the chance to repent and correct the situation by doing the right thing. 

When the world was created, there was no shortage. We experienced paradise. 

Everything was taken care of, and that created a problem. It is apparent that our pleasure stems from the creation of something out of nothing.

If everything is given to us on a "golden platter," It goes against our nature; We can not tolerate when others tell us what to do or how to manage life, but prefer to do things on our own. This has a direct influence on our level of happiness. 

In order to experience true joy and pleasure, we have to earn and create things on our own, otherwise we will not be truly happy.

What do you think is more pleasurable and fulfilling, winning a million dollars in the lottery or the satisfaction of earning it on your own by creating a new idea or business?

When we experience pain and suffering it is because our thoughts affect our emotions. The actual suffering is not hurting us, it is the thought about suffering and how we  relate to it. 

We can accept our failed attempts by adopting a winning attitude and turn our challenges into opportunities. 

A strong connection to God/Creation, will give us the strength to rise above any challenge and the readiness to deal with it.

If you need any assistance in adopting this mindset/philosophy, it would be my pleasure to be your guide on this magnificent journey. 

Much love 

Estee 💟

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Who's In Charge Of Your Life?

Behind the scenes God/creation is pulling the strings; Nothing in life is random, there are no accidents ...

Each and every thing that occurs in your life is carefully orchestrated to prepare you for what's next ...

What happens in your life is not a fluke. "There's logic behind the insanity ..."

Armed with this knowledge, you can wake up to either another day in paradise, or another day in hell. It all depends upon your attitude. 

It makes no difference how many mistakes you have made or how many times you've failed, as long as you are alive and breathing you can still have a chance to change and bring  yourself to a higher level of living. 

Take advantage of everyday and each opportunity that presents itself, in order to better yourself in some way. 

There's always room for improvement. You can find more ways to be loving, forgiving, accepting and kinder to yourself and others. 

You can cause a total paradigm shift, once you learn how to transform (negative energy) anger and resentment toward yourself and  others, into compassion and understanding. 

The most effective way to do that is by letting go of pain from the past. It is the only way to enable yourself to create more favorable experiences in the future. 

You cannot create newness as long as you hang on to what you have now.  

Much love 

Estee 💟

The Way Of The Wise

Ben Zoma says:

  Who is wise?

  The one who learns from every person…

  Who is brave?

  The one who subdues his negative inclination…

  Who is rich?

  The one who appreciates what he has…

  Who is honored?

  The one who gives honor to others…

  (Talmud - Avot 4:1)

Wisdom is the ability to connect information by seeing the whole picture, drawing the right conclusions and implementing the knowledge accumulated. 

A wise man chooses to eliminate pain and suffering by learning from the experience of others. 

A wise man bears the fruit of humility, self control, problem solving, kindness, compassion, patience and generosity. 

The wise are not quick to anger but to the contrary; They connect to wisdom by exercising tolerance. 

The wise are rich with knowledge because they never cease to learn nor do they feel they know it all. 

A wise man does not allow his emotions to rule his life. Instead, he observes and welcomes the opportunity to gain insight.  

Be a wise man, take advantage of all resources, and wealth of information available at your fingertips. 

Much love 

Estee 💟  

How To Create A Special Bond With The One You Love

How is it possible we suddenly fall out of love with someone we once we're in love with? Is love like a switch we can turn on or off? 

Love is a conscious choice we make and it is not based on feelings or emotions. 

It seems the love that parents have for their children is as close to unconditional love as we can get without the help of the Creator's love in our lives. 

Why is it that we can still love our children when they misbehave but we don't have the same tolerance for a significant other? 

Only as a result of invested effort a person can experience true love in his or her life.

We cannot possibly uphold and maintain a loving relationship when we care only for ourselves, our needs, and desires. We must have a sincere interest in understanding and caring for the needs of others.

The words we use to communicate can result in either life or death; Kind words can uplift and elevate, while maliciousness can weaken and destroy us from within.

A person whom we have hurt or offended is harder to win back than a fortified city; therefore we should always think before we speak. 

We should always remember that once words come out of our mouths we cannot take them back. Condemnation, blame, arguments, and disagreements separate us as if there's a locked gate around our hearts.

The human spirit can endure a sick body, but who can bear a crushed spirit?

We must always be ready and willing to listen, learn, and open our eyes and hearts to what others are trying to communicate to us; When our loved ones become angry or irritated, instead of reacting to what was said, we should stop and ask ourselves, what does he/she really need from me right now? 

Often times all that one needs is to just listen and be present, instead of defending our different points of view or placing blame. 

A special bond doesn't just happen. Once we are lucky enough to have love in our lives, we must handle it delicately with tremendous care as if it were a baby. We must treasure it in order to make it grow and evolve. That is how we create a loving and harmonious relationship. 

Love comes as a result of concerted efforts to do good upon our loved ones. It can exist only by taking thoughtful action. 

All of the above cannot materialize if you don't firstly consider the following; 

The way you treat yourself is the foundation of how you treat others; Love always begins with you! 

You must love yourself first in order to love others. Love is a two-way street of giving and receiving. 

You can't give something you don't have! 

You can’t give away the gift of love unless you possess it first within yourself.  

You can’t receive and accept love if you don’t feel deep inside that you deserve it.

In order to persist in your quest for true love, you must also find an unstoppable, ever-present emotional power source that keeps you going through the inevitable challenges and setbacks in romantic relationships.

Much love 💟

Estee Levinson, Relationship Communication Strategist - Creating harmonious communication, one relationship at a time.

Create The Life You Love

You have the ability to come up with creative ideas worthy of your attention, but if you don't take the next step forward nothing will ever materialize. 

Don't dismiss your cherished desires and drive for success! Keep your inner flame burning. 

Fight for your dreams - that's the only way to achieve what you want! When you accept this knowledge and belief as the ultimate truth, nothing can stop you from making your dreams a reality. 

The future comes moment by moment, one day at a time. Major changes in life don't just happen - you must do the very best that you you can in order to accomplish your life goals. 

Change can be difficult at times, but within it you'll reveal all the wonders of life. 

Life is like an efficient kitchen: it provides for you all the "materials" that you need. Your job, as the master chef, is to combine all the ingredients and create your own signature dish.

Taking action is what gets things done. If you sit around waiting for stuff to magically fall into your lap, you will end up feeling stuck and frustrated.

YOU must create the life you love. 

Don't be afraid to jump in with both feet; It's YOUR life we're talking about! 

Utilize your creative power - uncover the artistic expression you were meant to be. 

Embrace each and every moment - it is perfectly designed for your growth and expansion.

Much love 

Estee 💟

The Missing GAP To A Healthy Relationship

A key ingredient to maintaining a healthy and loving relationship is the ability to communicate effectively. We need to be clear on what we hope to achieve out of the relationship, as well as have the ability to communicate it to each other. This is because communication styles have been observed as predictors of healthy relationships.

The challenge becomes significant in a manner that, once an intimate bond is formed with a significant other, there is no manual that tells us, "this is what you should or shouldn't do", right? 

Perhaps the time has come to uncover the truth, in order to have the relationship you always dreamed of. 

So my question is, when was the last time you took a good look at your intimate partnership? Do you find yourself complaining about what your partner is not doing or saying; or are you actively looking at what you can do in order to improve things? 

Can you clearly identify what is causing friction in your relationship? 

Do you regularly express how you feel, or do you leave it unexpressed? 

One of the causes for failed relationships is the inability to meet expectations. 

The solution is… if you want to feel connected and have more loving moments with your significant other, you must be willing to take positive action to achieve what you most desired. 

In order to have a successful partnership, it is of utmost importance to be aware of one’s expectations, and have them clearly stated on both sides. Make sure you have a wider look. 

The following are some of the parameters to consider:

Do your best to simplify the agreement and list all expectation processes by breaking it down to specific needs, wants and desires. 

A written agreement may be an effective tool to achieve success in relationships. 

• What does he expect from me and what do I expect from him?

• How much time and attention are you willing to compromise and sacrifice for the common goal? 

• How many hours a day do I expect him to be thinking of me? How much is reasonable and how much is unrealistic? 

• What does the other person accept or reject? 

• What are you willing to give and receive?

This will alleviate a lot of friction and arguments. We express our feelings and communicate more instead of staying resentful because our needs are not being met. 

The next step is to identify any emotional or behavioral patterns to discern the best antidote in order to interrupt them. 

When you become aware of a pattern, it will enable you to have more self-control in any relationship. 

Make this a practice, change will disrupt any pattern. 

The Importance of Adapting  

We don't like change, we resist it. It feels uncomfortable, because change is associated with fear and taking a risk, but it is necessary for growth and positive results. 

We want to be safe, so we make a predetermined choice not wanting to change. 

We must do exactly what we resist. 

Consequential Thought

This is what will be possible in your life: 

Any pattern disruption will increase flow in your life.  

Structuring and honoring your agreements could cause a paradigm shift. 

Once you open the line of communication and create a dialogue, feelings can be expressed more easily. 

It's a valuable key to creating more harmonious and loving relationships. 

Give yourself credit for every step you take - take small steps. Every small movement makes a big change. 

Make an agreement to trust your instincts and listen to your inner voice more closely. 

Much love

Estee 💟

Becoming The Best Version Of Yourself

In order to maximize your hidden potential, the first thing you must do is recognize your inherent talents and skills so you can take full advantage of those things you’ve always been good at. 

How will this benefit you? It will boost your self-confidence and help you build on your strengths rather than focusing on your weaknesses which keep you hindered. 

Once you become aware of your natural resources, you'll be able to free up your mind to keep searching for more ways to add to your valuable character. This will increase your self-appreciation and approval. 

Think about how empowered and uplifted you'll feel by acknowledging and claiming the power of your qualities.

The next thing you may want to do is simply use your imagination. Think of someone you admire for a specific trait or talent they have. Imagine being that person in situations in which you could benefit from having that attribute. If you practice it enough, you may end up claiming that feature in your personal nature.

In addition to the above, you may try to get into a habit of writing down a To-Do List at the end of each day, in order to prepare a plan for the next day. This will ensure you'll get things done! 

Completing your assigned chores or projects will surely make you feel more productive, efficient, and influence your overall manner for the better. This will boost your confidence. 

And finally, read every day! Expand your knowledge on subjects you find interesting and look for ideas that can help you progress forward in life. 

There is always potential to realize a better version of yourself, and a more improved way of being and doing things than how you are now. 

You know you're capable of more if you push yourself in order to get there. Your biggest strengths are in your mind and in your heart. 

Focusing on the present can clarify your thoughts and make you feel more in control of your body and mind. 

In order to bring out your best possible self, for the next week, ponder everything you think, say, and do; how would your best self be doing things?

With love 

Estee 💟

The World Is Our Canvas, Our lives Are The Paint

The most remarkable thing about life is that we can always rethink our path and do things better the next time around. 

Organize your thoughts in a structured manner, this will help you better manage yourself so you can create anything your mind can conceive. 

It really doesn't matter how many times you tried and failed before, what bears the most importance is that you don't lose faith in your ability to get back up again. 

You were made in the image of God which means you were predestined to create something out of nothing. Otherwise, why are you here? 

It is the very point of living! 

Never stop searching for opportunities for growth and self-realization. 

The more refined you are, the greater your personal contribution to the world!

Much love 

Estee 💟 

Remember Who You Are and What You Came Here For

These words are intended for you, the person reading this. You deserve a real pick me up from time to time, a pep talk to be reminded of who you truly are. 

Fact: You, me, and everything we perceive in our physical reality are all part of a Divine Plan, far bigger than we can ever comprehend. 

You were granted with a rare gift. The gift of life; an unknown period of time in which you are to love, experience happiness, and enjoy everything in sight.

Recognize and appreciate the beautiful, extraordinary, uniqueness of your qualities. 

Become aware of the many possibilities presented before you. 

Dare to endeavor, to rise above your limitations. 

Open your eyes and find out more.

See the hidden beauty in everything; the greatness of the present moment, the wonderment of the now.

No matter what you are presently going through, know that you have the ability to see beyond this obstacle. 

Look forward for the future without inhibitions, concerns, or fears.

Love yourself and others unconditionally.

Anticipate the following moment in amazement and the curiosity of a child. 

Become intimate with the great power that lies within you, it will provide you with confidence and further your ability to create anything you desire in life.

Believe that there are wonderful years of joy awaiting you.

In this precious time you can create and experience many blessings. 

Breathe freely. 

Smile for no reason, enjoy and love every minute.

Much love 

Estee 💟

TAKING CHARGE OF YOUR LIFE

Are you having trouble reaching the success you know you're capable of? 

Have you ever considered that you may be sabotaging your own efforts to attain your desired goals? 

Take charge! Interrupt the repetitive pattern that has been  fueling your unproductive nagging thoughts. 

Focus your mind on a positive mental image; See yourself at your best, It will keep you  striding directly on course instead of wandering away from it. 

Consciously choose to think of yourself as having the skills and qualifications to do things right; It will change your inner dialogue, your actions and ultimately the final result. 

People who never change their thinking have a harder time achieving success, compared to those who always challenge what they hold as truth about themselves and others. 

They aren't able to develop the inner strength needed in order to step out of their comfort zone, take a risk and really go for it...

You can break the cycle and boost your confidence by making core changes to your inner beliefs on a deeper level. 

Then you can overcome what has been holding you back and open yourself to new possibilities; New experiences that will bring you closer to true happiness as well as success. 

• Go after what makes you happy, what makes your heart sing - it will diminish the stress in your life and increase your productivity. 

• Release yourself from limiting beliefs and be free to fulfill your dreams one by one. 

• Start living a bigger life - believe that you deserve it! 

Now is the time to challenge yourself; Take charge of your life. 

With love 

Estee 💟

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY

Wishing all mothers a joyful day, a day that is dedicated just for you, to honor and give thanks for being there for others, unconditionally.

You're always near with a tender smile, guiding those you love - like the sunshine lighting and warming their day. 

Give yourself a worry free day, a day when you can look around with pleasure. To enjoy the fruits of your labor - the investment was worth it, you can be proud and satisfied.

Take a little time for yourself, some time to relax, to breathe, to nurture and take care of yourself, and perhaps to even dream a little ... 

Allow this to yourself from time to time, you deserve it, and not just for today! 

Wishing all you dear women, a special and a very Happy Mother's Day 🌹🌹🌹🌹

With love 

Estee 💟

STEPS TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE

If you find yourself not knowing what to do next in life, you must accept that in order for a positive change to happen, it must begin within - YOU need to change!

Change comes from the inside out not the other way around, it's an internal process. 

Instead of looking for someone or something else to blame for how you feel or where you are in life, concentrate on becoming the person you always aspired to be. 

A good place to start is by modeling someone you admire, developing traits, qualities and habits that will build you, in addition to increasing confidence and faith in yourself. 

Try the following to gain clarity;

1) Take out a sheet of paper and split it into two; on the first column describe your present reality. On the second column describe where you'd like to be;

List at least 3 goals you've been wanting to accomplish.

For example, I want to create a loving and supportive relationship with my spouse. I want to lose 30 lbs, etc. 

2) Ask yourself, why do you want this change and how will you benefit as a result? What is stopping you from being where you want to be now? What will happen if things remain the same? 

3) Dare to venture out of your comfort zone - let your mind soar on the wings of your imagination - create a compelling vision of yourself and your life. 

4) Break bad habits and create new  empowering ones; Habits, much like a muscle, become stronger with use - the more you practice, the more they become ingrained within. 

Some things to consider; 

* Do things in a different way, become curious and ask yourself questions; It's the only way to gain a better perspective.

* Consistency and determination are the key for sustainable change.

* Success is determined by the fruits of your labor which are the benefit and results you achieve. 

Be a leader. Set an example for yourself and others. 

With love 

Estee 💟

SPRING IS A TIME OF REBIRTH AND RENEWAL

"Spring has arrived. Passover is here."

We have finally finished cleaning the chametz (spring cleaning) from all 

corners ...

Everything is clean, tidy and ready for the Holiday.

But what about inner cleansing?

Maybe it's time to get rid of anything that sours our heart? 

The time has come to say to anything that makes us feel badly, in body or soul: Thank you for showing me the painful area, but I do not need you any more, I've realized ... "

What a wonderful feeling it could be, if we're liberated from anything constricting and distressing; Big and small resentments, disappointments, frustrations and all other negative energies.

We should take it upon ourselves to be completely liberated from restricting perceived limitations, break out the prison we have built with our own hands and move on emancipated. 

We've already experienced true freedom ... It is a feeling we all aspire to achieve. All we need to do is connect to the same energy.

In order to be free, we must understand and accept that everything in life has endless meanings and multiple inner truths ... we've  experienced the Revelation at Mount Sinai; We have seen the truth from all angles.

Wishing everyone, a happy and bright Passover! May the spring bring new beginnings and exciting surprises, multiple blessings, prosperity, and success blooming in all walks of life. 

May we never lose hope and always be surrounded by warmth and love, Amen!

with love

Estee 💟

THERE'S A SILVER LINING BEHIND EVERY CLOUD ~

How do we rise up again from a tragedy occurring in life? How can we go on living?

All throughout life we go through various experiences shaping, adding color and depth to the person we become. There are situations people go through, that end up leaving them terribly scarred; Some don't possess the strength and fortitude in order to put the pieces together again. 

One of the worst things that can happen to a human being, God forbid, is having to deal with a loss of a child. It seems so unbearable and unnatural. 

I would like to share a true story inspired by what I recently experienced during my last visit abroad. 

I knew I was about to have a fun, interesting evening with my friend, but nothing could've prepared me for what happened next. 

We were out on the street waiting for a taxi to arrive, suddenly, we heard festive music from across the road. 

It was in fact our taxi driver honking at us. The taxi was lit up like a Christmas tree. A big smile came upon our faces as we crossed the street. 

As I opened the taxi door and sat down, I couldn't stop grinning. I felt overwhelmed, completely immersed by this unexpected wave of positive energy. 

I sensed the warmth spreading throughout my whole body. The music, the lights outside and inside the taxi, the driver's smiling face welcoming and greeting us warmly, all together created this magical feeling. 

It took me a minute to take it all in. I noticed the driver's name plate and said; "Wow Moshe!! I think you're amazing!! 

You're doing such a wonderful thing!!"

The driver looked at me with a puzzled expression on his face and said, "Why?"

"How can anyone remain oblivious?! You are making people happy!! You are spreading positive energy, pure goodness to your passengers and to the world!", I  answered enthusiastically.

"Thank you. l'll share something, with your permission." Moshe said quietly. 

"Of course", I said!

He followed with, "It may come as a surprise to you, but less than a year ago, I buried my 26 year old daughter."

The big smile on my face turned into a painful twisting in my heart.

"My daughter was involved in a terrible car accident. For reasons that have yet to be revealed, God took her away from us." Moshe continued in a heavy voice. 

"My family went through hell, my wife lost her will to live. I can't even begin to describe to you ... "

"About four months ago, I woke up. I mean literally woke up! After I saw myself derailing and spiraling out of control."

"I decided that I cannot continue living life this way. I had to change for myself and for the sake of my family. I knew in my heart, my beloved daughter wouldn't wish for me to grieve endlessly but to the contrary, celebrate her beautiful life, by keeping her memory alive in a healthy way."

"That day I went to the store determined to turn my taxi into a joyful experience for my customers. A little voice inside told me it would somehow ease my pain and suffering."

"Everyday I make a conscious choice; Instead of thinking about and fueling my own pain and misery, I invest my efforts into doing good, putting smiles on people's faces. I enjoy it, as it makes me feel good!"

"Don't get me wrong, it is still a daily struggle. My daughter was the apple of my eye."

"I pray for God to give us the strength to move forward and I thank him everyday for my wife and family. I no longer question anything. I realize I don't know everything, none of us do." 

"I gain strength by recharging myself daily, by giving love and care to my family, the people around me, as well as my passengers. I don't worry about the future, I just take care of today."

This experience touched my heart very deeply. It shows the true nature of the human spirit. It cannot be broken. 

I believe anyone can learn from this story, even if it only serves as a point of reference or an additional perspective on life. 

Love & Blessings

Estee 💟 

ALWAYS SEE THE GLASS HALF FULL

Our way of thinking bears the most crucial factor in our reality. How we process our thoughts and the meaning we attach to what we think about, determines the quality of our lives. 

We all have thoughts occupying  our minds. The problem is most of us don't spend time pondering; What and How to think. 

What do you spend most of your time energy and thoughts on??

At times it may seem as if we don't have a choice in the matter, but the fact is, we can always learn how to think better.

Optimism, gratitude along with having a loving approach towards ourselves as well as others, empowers us and makes us feel good inside. 

Adopting a positive outlook, doing our best to improve as well as progress, builds the strength we need in order to overcome difficulty, living a life brimming with joy and love.

It begins with awareness; "I can choose what to think." We can learn how to think better, and increase our chances to experience a life full of love, happiness and inner fulfillment.

We must keep in mind that thoughts come and go, like a passing breeze. At any given moment we can choose to focus on thoughts that create pleasant feelings and evoke the energy of love and joy within us. 

As humans, we have an innate ability to create in us energetic frequencies that directly affect the emotions we want to experience.

I encourage you to try this exercise to inspire within the sentiments of your choice.

Sit in a quiet place, take a few deep breaths and exhale out. Allow your imagination to run freely. 

Look at yourself and your life as an observer, be aware of the various aspects of your life. Choose to concentrate on the good and the brighter side of things - it is there, you just need to be more conscious of it. 

Allow yourself to see the connections between everything that occurs in your life - realize it all happens for your very best. 

Think for a moment, how will your life be if you began every thought with a sense of love in your heart. 

If you train yourself to see the glass as half full, it will always be filled anew.

It is my pleasure to guide you through this process, feel free to contact me. 

Love & Blessings

Estee 💟

TAKING DAILY INVENTORY

Wouldn't it be more beneficial for society if we concentrated on self improvement, and not our problems and the wrong doings of others? 

Placing our attention on evolving and transforming into better human beings, will contribute to ourselves in addition to the welfare of others. 

Invariably we are more apt to  analyze our problems rather than finding solutions. The rule is; we attract MORE of what is dominating our thoughts. 

Focusing on what is important  will allow us to achieve optimum results. Otherwise, we will find ourselves dwelling on the problem instead of being  solution oriented. 

The best way to create self-empowerment is to find creative ways to solve our troubles rather than superficially thinking about their causes. 

If we choose to invest our energy into becoming the ideal version of ourselves, the improvement will be immeasurable. 

We owe it to ourselves and everyone else to take that challenge. 

Here is a simple and effective exercise that can help channel our energy efficiently; At the end of each day find a quiet place and ask yourself; How could I be a better and more productive person? 

How can I consistently be the me I love to be around? 

What sacrifices am I willing to make toward the legacy in which I will leave behind? 

What do I need to fine tune in order to be more mindful in my personal and professional life? 

This will give you the opportunity to review your day and reveal new ways in which you can reach your maximum potential. 

If you need any help implementing this technique please don't hesitate to contact me at any time. 

Love & Blessings 

Yours Estee 💟

FORGIVENESS IS THE KEY TO FREEDOM

We all make mistakes, moments when we tell ourselves,"how could I have messed up so badly??!!"

Sometimes it feels like we have reached the end of the road - as if there is no turning back!

We hate and despise ourselves while staying in a state of self blame which then becomes an ongoing loop of anger and depression. 

Similarly, we tend to not forgive those who have hurt us; There's no forgiveness in our hearts, there is no mercy.

Where does it come from? Why do we repeatedly encounter times when we are the ones who get hurt? Maybe it's because we are not able to forgive ourselves ...

Why not learn to forgive? Is it better to keep punishing ourselves and carry the burden of hurt, this poison inside us, and continue to pay the price for the rest of our lives? 

Is that the best option for us, to keep resentment toward those who had wronged us? Is there any benefit in that? 

From where can we draw the power to forgive, firstly ourselves and others? 

When we forgive, we are not doing anyone a favor - We are accepting and approving ourselves.

The answer lies in the Holy Bible. When Moses went up to the mountain, the people lost their faith and built the Golden Calf. 

In the end, God forgave us in spite of our terrible transgression.  

What does that teach us? That we also have the ability to forgive ourselves and others. No matter how big our mistake may have been, we can never change God's mind about us.

He will never turn His back on us because he loves us unconditionally- his love is Divine and cannot be earned. 

Therefore, there is no despair in the world - it's an illusion. 

The thought of Creation is "for the betterment of its creatures" - There is no such thing as making a mistake that cannot be forgiven; It's never too late. 

Instead of withstanding tremendous guilt, mourning and grief, it is better we learn to tell ourselves; "Okay, it happened, what can I do now?"

We have free will - We can say; "That's right I messed up, but I am the Son/Daughter of God. He created me and He'll show me how to make amends. 

When we transcend and move forward it allows us to find the right path. We need to let it go inside, have mercy - be Godlike. 

No matter what, we must always keep in mind that everything can change for the better - we can train ourselves to think differently; We can choose love. 

The Universe is ready and available to give us the power we need to change our ways. 

We can be truly free only when we connect with the healing power of forgiveness.

These are important steps in life to find our ultimate peace of mind. If you need any help to achieve this goal please allow me the opportunity to work with you. 

Love & Blessings 

Yours Estee 💟

TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE

When was the last time you've asked yourself ״what is it that I really want"?

The first step in doing so is to look at your life deeply and start to explore; Get to know who you really are. Perhaps it will be more beneficial to stop sweeping your concerns under the rug and start being honest with yourself.

There is no other way to come closer to your true desires; No other way to reach happiness and success in life.

Accept your reality, become aware of the changes that need to be made and move on with your life. 

In order to facilitate and implement changes, you need to identify what works for you and what does not - you need to recognize the 'issues' in order to work on them. 

It may take time to understand what the heart already knows - when you accept yourself as you are, you are ready to begin taking responsibility.

Once you finally mature, you will be able to stop blaming the environment for your troubles, realizing it renders you as powerless. 

You stop handing the control of your life over to an external source; You know that you are responsible for what happens to you.

You gain clarity about what your wants and needs are, and begin creating a vivid vision of your goals; Building a specific plan of action will ultimately lead you to the direction in which you want to go. 

Assume you are involved in an intimate relationship that had lost its life... You are facing a fork in the road; Do I stay or do I go. You can say; "That's it I've had it! I'm done trying to make things better!! I want out!"

Or you can ask; "Have I truly done everything in my power to make things better", unequivocally, with no regret or remorse. 

Ask yourself; what went wrong?  What are the needs that are no longer being met. What am I unwilling to give/receive? 

What can you add as opposed to blaming in order to improve your part of the bargain; Put emphasis on your strengths and fortify your weak points. 

You must never forget that improvement is constant and unchanging, therefore you must do all you can to supersede your current position in life or circumstance in order to grow. 

 

Be free to choose at any moment who you want to be in your life and in your relationships, as they set the stage and lay the foundation for your happiness. 

What kind of person are you in your relationships; are you attentive, supportive and loving? Or do you get upset easily, frustrated and too quick to judge? 

We can not always have control over the circumstances in life, but we always have the freedom to choose how to respond to them.

Keep in mind that your ultimate goal is to be better tomorrow than you are today, do all that you do with a smile - enjoy the journey.

If you need additional help to implant this process, please don't hesitate to contact me at any time. 

Love & Blessings 

Estee 💟

LISTEN TO YOUR INNER VOICE

Make your life easier; Listen to your inner voice. 

Allow yourself to be empowered by your internal guidance. 

Go into your heart and ask: 

Am I following my true path in life? Am I at least stepping onto that road right now? 

FEEL the answers coming through the sensations in your body. 

The message is there, within you, waiting to be discovered. 

All you need to do is ask and as if by magic a shift will occur.

You will have the ability to creatively solve and find answers to many challenges in life. 

Learn how to ask and allow the ideas to stream to you effortlessly, naturally, freely; As they are intended to be.

It is a built in, Divine system to help you empower yourself to become a change maker - USE IT! 

I always welcome and happy to receive your comments 😊

Love & Blessings

Yours Estee 💟

SELF WORTH IS VITAL TO YOUR HAPPINESS

How's your self worth doing these days? 

Are you not giving yourself enough positive reinforcement because you're too busy searching for your faults? 

Perhaps you need to cultivate the relationship you have with yourself. 

If you want to be functioning at your best, at optimum level, you'll need to do a little "house cleaning."

Discard anything that isn't contributing to your growth and continued evolvement into a better friend, spouse, sibling, human being - a better version of yourself. 

Talk to yourself, understand what you are doing and why you are doing it. 

You deserve to invest this time to love and care for yourself. 

Here are 10 suggestions to increase your sense of self value; 

1 - Loving yourself unconditionally, even if you said or did something you regretted later. 

2 - Don't be hard on yourself; Learn to let go - forgive yourself and others - life's too short to hold on to grudges. 

3 - Become aware and grateful for all the goodness and blessings in your life. 

4 - Face your fears; It's the only way to overcome them and free yourself from bondage. 

5 - Focus on your attributes/strengths and do your best to improve; Learn new skills, expand your interests and knowledge. 

6 - Set boundaries; Learn to say no to people and situations that don't move you towards the person you want to become.

7 - Honor yourself and others; be kinder than necessary. 

8 - Celebrate your successes; Reward yourself for your accomplishments.  

9 - Speak up for yourself; Don't be afraid to stand up for what's important to you. 

10 - Be a good friend; Help others - you're actually helping yourself.

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Wishing you a wonderful day full of love and abundance 🌹

Love & Blessings

Yours Estee 💟 

LIVING A LIFE THAT MATTERS

Must watch - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gc4HGQHgeFE&sns=em

Your starting point bears no importance; It is not the determining factor whether or not you'll succeed in life. 

The question is, what will you do with what you have, and how will you leverage it to work for you not against you. 

Bottom line, you don't have to have much to be happy, rather it is more important that you are  able to build and create your life the way you want it to be. 

Abundance, richness, beauty, fulfillment and inner peace are derived from appreciation; Feeling blessed and grateful for everything you  have - nothing should ever be taken for granted. 

There's no guarantee that tomorrow you'll still possess what you have today. 

Focus on what is important and valuable to you, give your attention to what contributes to your progression in life, and let go of what holds you down.

If you want to lead a happy and healthy life, you need to create a control system that will ensure you'll achieve peak performance at all times. 

It begins with your thoughts and ends with actions. 

Live a life that matters; It doesn't happen by accident. It's not a matter of circumstance - It's your CHOICE! 

Please feel free to message me any comments or questions. I welcome your thoughts and feelings about this post. 

Love & Blessings 

Yours Estee 💟

YOU ARE NOT YOUR MISTAKES

So what if you make a mistake??

Do you know someone who doesn't think they made the wrong choice at some point in their lives?

Actually, it only counts as a mistake, if you have not learned from it and repeat the same behavior. 

If you are under the assumption that you can always be fault free, you're fooling yourself. 

You are bound to say the wrong thing or do something you'll regret later - It's not a question whether it will happen or not, but rather when. 

The only thing you can do now, is accept things as they are, learn, correct, plan for the future and go on. 

Uncover the hidden meaning in all interactions; Use every experience as an opportunity to promote yourself.

Each and every occurrence makes a difference and changes things. There will be difficulties along the way. You can complain, but it is not helpful in any way.

Life goes on continuously;Take an active part in what is happening around you, and connect to the natural flow. 

If you want to control the reality of your life and minimize mistakes as much as possible, you must begin to think, speak and act like the Creator - you have the power to create your reality. 

Thank you for visiting, if you have any questions or comments please don't hesitate to contact me at any time. 

Love & Blessings

Your Estee 💟

WE LIVE AND LEARN

Five years ago, I returned back home to my family, after spending ten days in a silent retreat; It was the beginning of the biggest turning point in my life. 

Through the hours of daily meditative work, I was compelled to face myself fully, with no distractions; There was no contact with the outside world, or any communication with the other participants. 

It is done in order to enable an internal cleansing process, starting from within; I went through a whole spectrum of feelings - A lot surfaced, many realizations about myself, the people in my life and the world around me. 

As the days went by I discovered more and more through my journey of self discovery. 

I found a new awareness, a different level of consciousness, because I finally let go of my attachment to the pain I had endured. 

I was able to forgive myself and others when the true meaning of compassion became clearer to me. 

I accepted myself as I am, naked sort of speak. 

Slowly but surely, the walls came tumbling down, and I felt liberated. 

I was able to see parts of the bigger picture, that up until then, didn't exist in my perception of reality. 

Many incidences came up from the past; I remembered the insults and the shame. I recalled the stinging sensation of the pain I felt. 

I cried a lot and allowed myself the time to heal my wounded self. Slowly, I noticed I stopped looking for who I can blame for all the wrong doing. 

Fast forward to present time, 

many things have changed since, today when I get angry or hurt because I feel I had been wronged, or treated unfairly, 

I begin asking myself questions. 

I know that It is me who is responsible for how I feel; No one has this power over me. 

I know I have a choice; I can either react and insult back, or back up a minute and think, maybe what this person just said to me, has really nothing to do with me. 

The fact that someone had chosen to treat you unjustly, doesn't mean that it forces you to retaliate. We don't always know what the other person is going through. 

We should always strive to think favorably about one another and give them the benefit of the doubt. That is how we do our part in creating peace, and allowing things to flow naturally and harmoniously. 

In life we have two choices; Give in to what is happening to us externally and react to it, or be proactive and create our desired reality. 

I have shared with you a very personal piece of my life, I hope that it touched you and perhaps provided you with a deeper understanding of what life is really about. 

Love & Blessings 

Yours Estee 💟

TURN THE PAGE

If you find yourself stuck, not moving in the direction you want in life, it may be due to an unconscious fear or negative energy that has been stored in your body. 

You must realize that there is something unresolved and you must address it. 

It is time to make a choice to rid, cleanse and release yourself of all negativity. 

Decided that you no longer want to feel as if you're grounded to the floor, and instead look forward to what you can create today. 

It doesn't make sense to live in the past, even if it just happened yesterday. 

There's nothing you can do to change what has already transpired, wouldn't it be more beneficial for you to be in the here and now?

What good are you bringing to yourself or others when wallowing in a morass of negativity, emptiness and sorrow?

It would be much more advantageous to invest your energy and the resources available to you on things that can help you move forward. 

You don't have to make big waves of change; Small steps create big lasting effects. 

In order to create balance and harmony in your life, you must identify the good as well as the bad - but never forget they are not permanent; You can change anything the moment you decide. 

Take out a pen and paper and begin writing down your feelings; Write the pros and cons. 

Don't hold back! This is an exercise designed for you to face head on what has been bothering you or making you feel uncomfortable. 

Is there anything you can do in the future in order to prevent repeating the same mistakes?

Say to yourself; I know mistakes are an opportunity for learning and growing, how can rectify or improve this area in my life? 

Be open and honest, you'll gain a better sense of self understanding, heal faster as well as become more equipped to handle adversity. 

If this has provoked or triggered any unresolved issues, or moved you in any way, let's get to work! 

Love & Blessings

Yours Estee 💟

EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR THE BEST

"Life is ten percent of what happens to you and ninety percent of how you respond to it." Lou Holtz 

In life, we sometimes find ourselves facing situations within the family system, work related, etc, which we have no control over. 

We end up feeling helpless knowing there's nothing we can do to fix things. 

We didn't cause the occurrence, therefore, we cannot cure it or control it. 

When we are unable to change the situations we are being challenged to change ourselves; How we respond to what's happening around us. 

The only thing we can control is how we choose to react; we can decide not to allow it to affect our life. 

We need to set boundaries; I am not going to be responsible for something I didn't create. 

I am detaching my self from the consequences. 

True freedom is having the ability to maintain inner peace despite the external chaos and turmoil occurring around us. 

We must constantly remind ourselves that although it may not always seem that way, everything that occurs happens for the best. 

We must let go of the need to control what is beyond our control; Accept things as they are, and always strive for the very best.

We must not allow tension and worry to take over us, knowing it is completely useless and we will only end up hurting ourselves making things worse than they already are. 

When things turn out badly, we can offer our help, provide support and encouragement, and be as empathetic as we possibly can.

In order for us to proceed forward, we must acknowledge the existence of the situation, understand our limits, and do what's in our power; Change your perspective and transcend beyond life's imperfections. 

Thank you for visiting, if you have any questions or comments, please do not hesitate to contact me at any time. 

Love & Blessings 

Yours Estee ❤️

CHANGE YOUR FOCUS CHANGE YOUR LIFE

Anxiety doesn't need to be chased away, it needs to be managed more effectively.

At times when we feel uncertain, we may experience stress and anxiety; Things appear to be worse than they are. 

We feel uncertain when we focus on what we don't want, believing it will help us control the negative outcome or the problem we are preparing ourselves for. 

Don't you think it would be much more productive if you shift your attention and focus on what you want instead? Perhaps, that will bring you closer towards your goals or the solution you're seeking. 

Begin by asking yourself how do I leverage what's positive and great in my life right now? What can I do today that will bring me closer to where I want to go?

You can gain control over your brain by navigating it towards the direction you want.

Once you train yourself to expect positive outcome, it will lessen the burden of the stress in your life. 

You can say to yourself; I don't know how to reach my goal (quit smoking) but I will keep my possibilities open. 

I will not repeat negative self talk because I know my brain will always find reasons why I can't do what I want to do. 

Give yourself permission to look for solutions; Keep that possibility alive. Be more creative, let go of your fear of failure. 

You will not give into fear because you know it will stimulate anxiety and it will prevent you from making the decisions that are right for you. 

Giving your brain positive instructions will decrease your anxiety and stress levels, and improve your confidence.  

By adjusting your focus you can change any outcome from negative to positive. 

Assess and explore your untapped power; What is keeping you away from your goals? 

Once you realize that your brain can change, you'll feel more empowered. 

Everyone wants to feel free to soar high and above, but what are you willing to do about it? 

By guiding your thought process, you will understand the spread between what's going on now and what you want in the future.

Become aware of your alternatives - write down a list, a table of what's going now and what is better about the future. 

Instead of trying to figure out why things are not working for you, why not  instead thrive, seek happiness and live life to the fullest? 

This will shift your brain into anxiety management mode.

Thank you for visiting, please contact me with any thoughts or comments.

Love & Blessing

Yours Estee ❤️

AGREE TO DISAGREE

Unconditional Love Is The Language Of Peace

 

Your personal opinion on any subject does not really matter; What's important is your ability to love and accept others even when they do not think the same as you.

Peace is built from parts of the whole. You have the right to view things differently then others, but that doesn't mean peace can not be maintained within you and around you.

You don't need to have the same outlook on everything as others do, however, you need to allow them the right to express their opinions.

Not everyone thinks the same, and that is perfectly fine. We become complete once we realize this simple truth.

Now you can have peace in your heart and so it is. 

Follow this practical process to find peace; 

 

With the right simulation you can change any moment of distress experienced in life from birth to present moment. 

Close your eyes, and begin breathing slowly and deeply, bringing yourself into complete relaxation. 

Think of a positive event - a single moment of joy can release you from any hurt that had occurred in your past.

Focus on the present moment and fully connect to the power within you, to the real you.

Practicing mindfulness will help you master your emotions - do this process each time you feel the need to shift your energy to a higher frequency.

If this message touched your heart or triggered any emotion, I welcome the opportunity for you to share your thoughts and feelings. 

With a loving hug, 

Yours Estee ❤️

NEW CHAPTER IN YOUR LIFE

Do you ever ask yourself: what am I doing here? Why am I still at this job If I do not enjoy it? why am I in this relationship?

You find yourself feeling down and uneasy with a heavy heart, simply not knowing how to get yourself out of the current condition.

Perhaps, this feeling of stagnation is coming from a situation which has not yet been resolved; inhibiting you from moving forward.

Truth is, there is no escape! you can not run away from yourself, right?

You must realize that there is always room for change, as there is a reason, and an opportunity for you to grow. 

God and the universe, brings you certain people and situations in order to give you a chance to overcome darkness in your life. 

There will be times you may feel alone, but in reality, you are never alone! 

To rise above the situation, over the darkness you're experiencing, you must find a foothold, something that will help lift you up, and proclaim hope once again. 

You must create a serge of positive energy within, and use the power of your imagination to do this inner work; It will enable you to see beyond the temporary disability, beyond the current situation. 

Where do you get the strength to fight and make a change? 

From the Creator? through prayer and request?

You need to ask for help from up above, otherwise nothing will change.

Once you make the necessary corrections and recognize the opportunities available and the best of that situation, all the pain and suffering will be gone in a moment; Suddenly you'll find yourself elsewhere.

You will look back at this chapter that is over and done with, and you will not feel anger, helplessness or despair, because you've matured, because you've learned your lesson, because you've restored hope to yourself and now you can move on to the next chapter in your life. 

Thank you for visiting, if you have any questions or comments, please do not hesitate to contact me at any time. I am here to help you achieve your maximum potential and focus on a new beginning. 

With a loving hug, 

Yours Estee ❤️