HOW TO STOP WORRYING AND START LIVING

We spend much of our time worrying. 

At times we have a good reason to be concerned, and at other times it's our natural survival instincts that awakens in us, so we could protect ourselves. 

Either way, it isn't a healthy state to be in for long periods of time.

Here are some effective ways to lower our levels of concern:

• Breath - deeply and slowly (we sometimes forget to breath...)

• Assessing facts - ask yourself, am I facing a clear and present danger? What am I really worried about?

• Keep yourself occupied - shift your focus elsewhere. 

• Reality check - how much truth is in your worry, how much is your imagination.

• Be present - limit your thoughts only to what is happening in the moment.

• Don't forget to smile - trust that everything has a reason; whatever your concerned with will eventually pass.

When facing an issue that seems unsolvable, try looking at it from a different perspective - it may produce the answers you've been seeking ~

HOW TO CREATE MIRACLES IN LIFE

How can I create miracles in my life?

The single way for a new creation to be made possible, is when I make the effort myself - that's the only way I can truly appreciate and enjoy the new creation.

I know I came into the world to connect to the essence of the Creator existing within me - creating something out of nothing.

I know that only I can do it myself - no one can do for me.

I must transcend beyond all who and what I think I am, and open myself to new possibilities.

I release what is stuck, I break the boundaries that I have built around myself, I come out of the comfort of the known and head into the unknown.

I forgo the old because I know there is no other choice - that's the only way I could get on a new path.

I must give up logic and fear, and fill myself up with love for myself and others.

I must connect to the essence of who I really am - that's why I choose to connect to love.

I focuse on kindness and love for myself and others.

I know this is the way I can create something new - I can create miracles in my life ~

HOW LUCKY ARE YOU TODAY

Is luck nothing more than a word that we have attached to a circumstance, where success or failure is brought on by chance rather than our actions? 

Is luck something unpredictable that happens to us or is it determined by previous events or prior states? 

Is it recognizing an opportunity that just "happened" to present itself before you, is that a form of luck?

Could it simply be a state of awareness?

Since everything in life manifests itself as energy, than luck is just a form of energetic flow...

Nothing in life ever happens by chance, just like there's no such thing as an "overnight success"- a lot of hard work is put into anything that seems like it just happened "out of the blue"..

Luck, like everything else in life, is something that we create.

How lucky do you feel? 

CONTROLLING ANGER BEFORE IT CONTROLS YOU

You must invest in order to get results. 

If you think something is yours, can you go grab it?

Nope! You have to create it. 

You have to manufacture it.

If you want to achieve something, and you come from a place of anger and loss of control, you're setting yourself up for disaster.

No matter what you say or do, you've lost before you started.

Although there are those who say that anger gives energy, "anger is on my side, I'm the one who is right.."

But once you allow such behavior, you're not exactly in the right place, wouldn't you say?

A person can enlist tremendous amount of power, but he must be channeling it in the right direction.

You can move things with your mind power and produce a lot of anger and hatred.

But what's left then? 

Nothing!

When you come from a place of anger, you can generate a lot of force. But that's not real, it is not a long-lasting power. You go through the motion, but there's not much left of you after.

You're angry and you're right, but you are the one who actually loses.

Is it really worth it? No!

The price you have to pay is too high.

You have the false high, then the crash landing that comes with deep sadness or even depression - you will never feel good about yourself.

You should never use this weapon, because it is a double-edged sword: not only are you  causing pain, you also remain in pain. 

Eventually you end up stabbing yourself with the sword...

PREP FOR THE RIDE

Learn to drive your luxury vehicle - 

Imagine your spirit being in the driver seat of your car/body. 

You obtained the necessary "licenses" (that's why you are occupying your body at the moment). 

Now, all you need to do, is learn how to have the smoothest ride possible.

The more you learn about your inner being the better you'll function in your current vehicle (body). 

Learn how to have an optimal ride, facilitate the necessary changes that need to be made, and rise beyond your personal, everyday bumps in the road. 

The more you learn about this magnificent being - yourself - the more efficient you'll become, and the lesser bumps you'll experience along your ride.

Manifest your most desired reality 

by learning how to be a skilled driver in life's racetrack - staying present in the game - in a gist, that's what life is all about ~

FOCUS ON THE LIGHT

When I feel any kind of darkness, I know there is a lesson for me to learn.   

Sometimes I need to feel pain, to tear a little from the inside, in order to rebuild myself again.   

I choose to see the sunlight peeking through the dark clouds.   

I know I have to feel discomfort in order to expand, grow, and make my self better.  

I know I need to be in a place of trust and confidence.  

I know that I'll be challenged by fear and uncertainty, but I promised myself to always do my best to focus on the Light.

BREAKING FREE

We are all enslaved by or addicted to something ...

Not one person isn't a prisoner in some way, to something beyond his control, a place that does not allows him to be who he really is.

The irony is that we are the ones who hold ourselves captive - we are both the warden and prisoner.

It's so much easier for us to just swallow a pill, and mute the pain; we create our own "jail-houses"; addiction to chemical and natural substances, or a constant need for acceptance from the environment. 

Truthfully, no matter what the habit, bondage, or addiction is, whether it is a drug, or the need for recognition... It is NOT easy to overcome. 

As soon as one tries to break free, for example, from an alcohol addiction, often, the situation worsens. 

The person becomes ill and goes through excruciating pain. 

Every day becomes a difficult battle between what the body requires, and what the soul is longing for - to be free - detached from any physical need.

When a person decides to change his ways, and overcome his harmful habit, he must realize, it is not an easy task ...

However, once you decide to rebel, the attack begins..

If you think you'll have it pleasant and easy, you are deceiving yourself - maybe it's better not to go out to war ...

Everything you want to achieve in life, comes with an attached price tag - there are no freebies!

The price is hard work and the challenges are not easy - darkness, pain, and maybe you'll even have to face some "skeletons in the closet ..."

Each person and their skeletons ...

If you do not think you can overcome and rise above your nature, don't go on this journey.

Arriving at true freedom, wisdom, enlightenment, and revelation, never comes "free of charge". 

After all, to get to what is truly important in life, something that provides a good enough reason to live, has to have a price - to reap the results, you must go through a journey.

But when the soul's force overcomes the challenge, there's nothing more satisfying - breaking through heavy shadows, the light getting brighter, and brighter, and salvation is finally revealed.

We can not live in true joy and satisfaction, when we are dependent on something, addicted to something, or when we are waiting for something to happen - that's an addiction.

One who is not liberated  can never reach true fulfillment and satisfaction ~

13 STEPS TO HAPPINESS

13 lucky steps on the road to true happiness and inner peace ~

* When you decide to be happy, just because you can.

* When you no longer wait to be happy when.... XYZ

* When you are true and authentic with yourself and others.

* When you become consciously aware of the choices you make.

* When you stop blaming and start accepting.

* When you decide to love even if it may seem uncomfortable at times.

*When you take charge, instead of putting someone or allowing anyone other than yourself, to be in charge... of your life.

* When you gain strength from within and no longer search for someone or something to empower you. 

* When you learn to embrace challenges and blessings alike.

* When you no longer need external validation in order to feel good inside.

* When you love yourself unconditionally, even if you don't particularly like where you are, at any specific point in your life.

* When you are happy and grateful to have been endowed with the gift of life.

* But mostly... When you wake up in the morning, noticing you are still breathing, you KNOW, you have been given one more chance to live life ~

QUALITY QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF

If you want to go forward in life, you need to ask yourself QUALITY questions.

Don't beat yourself up by saying; "why me..."

This line of questioning will only bring you down to feelings of victimhood and helplessness. 

If what you want is to feel more empowered and motivated, focus on your intentions; not on where you are now, but rather where would you like to go.

Do this simple exercise:

Write on a sheet of paper, 

My intention is_________.

I would like to achieve_________ in this lifetime.

When I achieve my goal, how would I change?

Who would benefit from my accomplishment?

How different will my life be ? 

Seek clarity - that is the only way to go!

SPRINKLE SOME LOVE

What is the first thing you do when you wake up in the morning?

Do you grumble about all the tasks you need to accomplish?

Are you going to work reluctantly, because you do not like what you do, or maybe because you're not exactly "in love" with your boss?

You must realize that your day will look exactly as you shape it to be- there's no one to blame... 

What would your day be like, if as soon as you awakened, you would be grateful that you're alive? 

How would you're day go, if you said to yourself: today is going to be a GREAT day?

Your attitude plays a determening factor in everything that occurs in your life - it all depends upon what you think and how you feel.

Before you start your day, firstly, ask yourself: What do I want to feel today? What do I want to experience today?

Be precise in thought - when you know what you want and how you want to feel, you attract desirable experiences. 

Obviously the people around you will not always be in the same place you are in, but that does not mean you have to be under the influence of the environment.

On the contrary, when you change the way you think about yourself and life in general, and decide to do everything lovingly, you can invariably influence your environment for the better.

It has been said that if we do not make the necessary changes in ourselves, life forces us to make them...

Decided from here on out, to fuel your days with passion, excitement, and love in everything that you do - life will undoubtedly reward you back ~

CHASING MY TAIL TO FIND MYSELF

What determines what occurs in my life?

My reaction - it all depends on my emotional responses that are actually related to my own history.

The problems begin with the way I choose to respond. 

Life is full of changes, challenges, and endless disturbances - and each of us copes differently.

Some people develop, the "Teflon Effect" - nothing sticks - no matter what happens to them, they are always cheerful.

And there are also those people who just "invite" the problems and troubles - they are certain someone did something to them: they did to me, they took 

from me ..

They are not taking responsibility for what happened to them in the past. Therefore, they continue to produce, throughout, the same kind of experiences.

When a person does not take responsibility for his actions, he experiences a certain kind of blindness. 

He doesn't notice that in fact he is living in the dark. He lives with pain that has been carrying with him - unable to release it.

It all depends on the way you interpret what happens to you - in essence, you are "inviting" the experiences to come to you.

You can hate everyone and blame everyone for the darkness that you  have created.

However, it's just like applying a band-aid to settle your wound - all the disorders originating in pain and darkness - the wound will not heal and continue bleeding.

One's inability to break free from the symptom - the very reason the disconnection from the light has occurred - causing him to remain in the dark. 

As a result, he puts the blame on everyone but himself.

All the interruptions I am experiencing are the result of being disconnected from the Light, from Source, from who I really am.

One must realize, that the current problems he is experiencing, are in fact a chronology of things he had not yet addressed.

If you don't deal with the real problem - you will continue chasing your own tail.

The solution lies in awareness - identify the response - do not be tempted to blame 'the situation' or another person, for being the cause of your pain and discomfort.

Focus deeply inside and find which emotion it was that triggered you - what brought you to respond as you did. 

Search inwardly until you find the first time you felt that same emotion.

When doing this inner search, often what is revealed to us, is an emotion that comes from an old pain. Possibly with someone in our past.

If we are not aware of that emotion/old pain, and we don't treat the root of the problem, throughout our lives we project our pain on every person who pushes the same buttons.

Other people are never the problem - they are the catalyst that brings things to the surface.

No one can awaken something in us, that has not been there before.

Once you connect to your own darkness, deal with it and inject it with Light, suddenly the problem disappears, and with it all your undesired future responses. 

Right here is the work; we are to turn every dark occurrence into a bright light in our lives - we had turned the bitter to sweet, when taking responsibility for our thoughts and feelings, and struggle bravely, facing the real problem.

Bottom line, who created the darkness? I have. Who can make it disappear from my life?

Bingo! Only me!

INCREASING YOUR CONFIDENCE

What is confidence all about?

Confidence should not be measured or come from what we've achieved or attained in life.

Confidence is all about choosing to know what we are capable of. 

We are much more resourceful than we may think: our innate abilities go far beyond what we give ourselves credit for.

Confidence is an energy that we create - a feeling that we exude from within. 

We need to train ourselves to bring this energy from the inside out, and apply it to any given situation we may be encountered with.

Whether or not we believe a certain situation is going to be "good" or "bad" doesn't matter. 

What matters is our state of being - everything follows our energy - it always leads.

Once we change our energy then we can always be confident with all that we do. 

It is not a strategy, it is a way of being. It is a way of moving along in life. 

When we work from the experience of being that which we desire, then we realize that things can shift very rapidly.

Working with energy will provide us with the opportunity to make changes in a sustainable way - not as a quick fix.

Today, choose to become curious, choose to become a little playful ...

If you allow yourself to entertain a new way of thinking and feeling, you may discover new things about yourself and your abilities as human being, rather than a human doing ...

THE TIME IS NOW

In life there are difficult moments, which we certainly do not choose to have. 

However, if we are truthful, we will realize that those instances are the precise ones that give the color and flavor to our lives.

Those are the times from which we learn, grow and derive our conclusions.

Those are the experiences that provide the salt and pepper to our existence ...

The "seasoning" that brings about variety and opportunity for change.

That's how we become different than we were yesterday and the day before. 

That's how we learn, progress and become more emboldened. 

With each challenging occurrence we become a little kinder to ourselves and others.

Today I choose to take charge of composing the music and dance to the sounds of life.

Let's face it, bottom line, I am the one who chooses which chords I strum. 

I am the one who is responsible for the planning and production of the grand show called LIFE.

Truly, there is no time other than Now!

FINDING YOUR POWER WITHIN

Do you know how powerful you truly are?

Suppose you need to go to an important meeting and you know it will not be easy. 

You are feeling anxious and nervous because you don't know what the outcome will be. 

There is a technique you can use to help yourself: sending "angels" to your assistance.

You create positive energy and direct it in advance to your future meeting - the earlier, the better.

Here is an example of a similar situation I experienced:

A few years ago, I had a legal issue regarding a property I owned. I was about to go to a mediation with the person who was suing me. 

The details are not important, but rather what had happened at the meeting itself.

Of course I was nervous, because I wasn't ready for the real possibility, that I would have to lay out money, that I did not have at that time.

I decided to meditate so I could relax. During the meditation, I imagined myself walking into the conference room seeing everyone sitting together and smiling: there was love, unity, and harmony all around.

I infused myself with certainty that everything will work out for the best for everyone concerned - I felt confident that it will all be perfect.

Later on, I arrived at my attorney's office and we all gathered together in the conference room.

It was not long before the atmospheric state in the room became very hostile and unpleasant.

Despite all the shouting and lashing out going on, I kept telling myself, do not connect to what is happening around you....

I kept on focusing on the meditation process I had done, right before I got to the meeting.

A few minutes later, I began to speak. I have no idea what I had said exactly, but the meeting concluded and in my hand, was a signed document releasing me from any future liability. 

Not only was the "guillotine threat" hanging over my head, but I also had nothing to worry about down the road.

As you learn how to harness the creative power within you, and use it to direct "angels" - positive energy, to a critical moment in your life (any given situation that causes you fear or anxiety), you are infusing yourself with forces that are readily available for you, when you need them most.

Once the "pressure is on", it is difficult to generate positive energy - this way, you are preparing yourself for any situation.

When you begin producing feelings of peace and harmony, of joy and positive results, not only for yourself, but for others as well, everyone benefits.

What actually happened here? Instead of being sucked into a vortex of very unpleasant feelings, I decided to use the tools I know, to come to my aid.

Do not believe me, try it for yourself ..

LIFE CHANGES

Throughout my life, I have faced many troubles and challenges. 

As I look back and reflect, I can see a definite difference between the way I used to handle my difficulties in the past, to how I manage myself now. 

It's not to say, that I never go through my occasional "melt downs ..."

However, thank goodness, overall, I'm not in the same place as I was before, by all means.

In the past, I didn't really know who I was. I had a limited knowledge of who Estee is; so I used to point fingers, accuse, and blame everyone who I thought had wronged me because I never "saw" them. 

I wasn't aware of the part I played in the dynamic between others and myself. 

I was too busy thinking about how hurt I was, and how badly I felt because "they did" this or that to me.

The more I became aware of myself, with all my complexities, the more I learned about others. 

I began seeing the "bigger picture", the reality I had not been aware of before.

I discovered that once one dares to seek the truth and has a genuine intention to better one's life, he receives the strength he needs, in order to persevere through the process of change. 

Change is necessary, although many times we see it as "evil".

We fight with all our might, to avoid stepping away from our comfort zones - to change from what is familiar to us.

Although deep down inside we know, there's really no other way, if we desire to better our lives.

As the years went by, I became more connected to myself, which had brought me to the knowing that there is a "bigger plan"- there are forces governing the universe - things don't just happen. 

I believe there is a Creator (intelligent being), and that He had created this universe for the betterment of its creatures.

Therefore, everything that happens to me, even if I can't see it, happens for the best. 

Realizing this truth helps me, when I go through difficulties. 

I say to myself, there must be a good reason for me to be going through this... 

I must be in the midst of a refining process...

I look within and search for areas in my life, where I may be in need of some "tweaking".

I remind myself, stay strong,"this too shall pass". 

I thank God for the amazing people in my life - everyone needs a strong support system. 

Honestly, without them, I'd probably be lost.. 

In essence, what had changed about me most significantly, is in the way I choose to view my life.

My overall perspective had gone through a change.

I don't blame anyone. Instead, I try to understand where they are coming from - I attempt to see things from their point of view.

I live more at peace within myself, and that to me is liberating - that is true freedom.

Please share, how are you different today, than you were in the past?