Turning Anger Into An Asset 

Anger is an emotional and physical response that occurs when triggered by external stimuli, manifested by sensations of pain, discomfort, threat, etc. 

When we perceive in our minds wrongful behavior by others and consequently feel anger, the source reason for the irritability may be subconscious, rather than pertaining to our current situation.

The reaction to what is happening around us, depends upon our interpretation. When we are quick to respond, it is as if an invisible button is pressed and we may automatically feel the need to defend ourselves. Our behavior is a direct reflection of the choices we make.

What can you do in a moment of anger?

Stop - Do not let the pot stirring within you boil over! Granted, it's not easy, but it is achievable. The more you practice, the better you'll become at controlling yourself. 

Focus - shift the focus from yourself to the person in front of you - what happened to him? I wonder why he is acting this way?
Do not take things personally; look at every situation as an opportunity to learn something about yourself.

Faith - the more self-absorbed a person is, the more anxious and impatient he'll be. The less worried about his personal affairs, (why do I deserve this, why me, etc.) having complete confidence that God is in charge, will decrease anger, fear, worry and tension.

Observing - spend time getting to know and understand yourself better. Ask yourself what is really bothering me? What triggered me?

Gratitude - see the good in everything.

Fulfillment - realize the opportunity for improvement and self-development.

Life Lessons - there are no coincidences; There is a reason for everything.

Acceptance - see pain, trouble and sorrow as a way to purify yourself from iniquities of the past (karma). This is an opportunity to transcend and embrace a spiritual and healthier outlook on life. 

Expand your point of view - develop the ability to see the big picture - when triggered, ask, "What will I gain in contrast to what I could lose if I allow myself to become angry?
What is healthier, to be relaxed and calm or irritable and cranky?
Do I have to be angry? Does it help me ??

Negative emotions over a long period of time can be harmful to our health. The amount of white blood cells decrease and the immune system becomes compromised. This may result in the development of various diseases.

On the other hand, when we control negative emotions we become healthier in body and mind. We have self-control, are more loving, warm, calm, accepting and understanding.

Practical Tools For Dealing With Anger:

Pay attention to your body language - Are you frowning and looking furious?

Force yourself to smile - This will bring about a physiological change to help you overcome the internal turmoil.

When someone makes you angry, avoid eye contact. This will give you time to relax and relieve tension.

Keep a journal - Take a moment to write what you feel in order to neutralize your response. This will give you sufficient time to process and become more rational. 


Choose to release anger. Choose to be free and happy.


with love
Estee 💟

Estee Levinson, Relationship Communication Strategist - Creating harmonious communication, one relationship at a time. 

THE JOY OF WRITING

I enjoy writing, it's magical for me. It allows me to vent and release. Sometimes, towards the end of a creative process, I become so filled with excitement, like a little girl ... funny.

All kinds of thoughts, words, symbols, shapes, and images come to mind, roaming around on their own. 

And so ... as a curious writer, I collect them and use them to express myself: I add dimensions words, exclamation points, periods, etc, and finally breath life into concepts and ideas.

Every story has its own unique energy - a magical world unto itself.

Sometimes I wonder maybe this is channeling? Perhaps messages are being transferred to me from higher worlds, or maybe they come from the depths of my heart and mind ...

When I write, I feel I am increasing awareness and unconditional love within me, and then I pass it on to the world around me.

My goal is to be liberated, feel secure,  have faith within and minimize my fears while maximizing my ability to share my love. 

Writing enables me to reach out to people and help them to live happier and healthier lives. 

It is important that we are honest with ourselves before we can 

achieve peace and tranquility within and with the world around us. 

There will be no global peace as long as there is no peace within ...

HOW TO CREATE SUCCESS

"Success is not to be measured by how much material wealth is possessed, but whether you are able to create at will what you need”  ~

Paramahansa Yogananda 

Invariably, when we think of success, we do not automatically see ourselves feeling something, or having a certain mental attitude. 

Why is that? Because we were taught success means to achieve, to acquire, to strive, to get, to conquer...  

Typically, we think about physical things - stuff we want to have, or a status we would like to acquire, etc.

What if success became much more than a result we hope to have when achieving a task or a goal?

What if we see success in creating a sense of joy within - to experience as many moments of happiness as best we can? 

Think about it for a moment; when your heart is filled with happiness, does anything else matter? 

I think not. Success begins and ends in our thought process, in our mind - how we subjectively perceive it to be. 

Upon waking up in the morning, choose to remind yourself that you are here because you need to be here - there's a particular mission that only you can fulfill. 

Be grateful for the opportunity, and begin taking action - think of yourself as a factory whose  main purpose of existence is to manufacture moments of joy - that is your goal.

Okay. Now what?

With your thoughts and everything you say or do, go after happiness, with all you've got.

After all, it was the thought of creation.

Results do not just appear:  Action must be taken within a specified period of time or within a specified parameter - you have the tools, you have life - starting now, begin with a smile :)

LET GO AND HEAL

LET GO AND HEAL

Why should you let go of  pain and resentment?  

Wouldn't it be better to replace your hurt with unconditional love for yourself?  

It may sound farfetched, but think about it..   

When you hold onto your pain, who suffers?   

Mainly, you do! Not only that, but you also end up dragging along everyone else around you.  

So, why not resolve whatever it is that is holding you back?   

What more would be possible for you, if you  chose to go beyond?

What kind of a person would you be without that old pain?

Why not free yourself to be the loving and giving person you truly are?  

You know that's all you really want to do..  

You cannot be genuinely happy if you hold onto any negative energy - you cannot be whole. 

You cannot be truly balanced.  

Why not take this incredible amount of energy and put it to good use, instead of having it work against you?  

Perhaps you could invest this time in finding what your true purpose is.

A good place to start, would be to do something that you love to do, and create a way for it to be lucrative for you.   

You see, we always have a choice: we can drown deeper in our misery or we can use our creative, innate abilities to work on our behalf.  

It is always a matter of choice! 

YOU CAN DO IT - I Can Help.

FLOW OF ABUNDANCE ...

Everyone has the notion that Yom Kippur (day of atonement) is a day of fasting and suffering, so we can be forgiven. 

In fact Yom Kippur is a day of celebration and joy.

Yes ...

It is a day in which abundance and goodness is available to everyone.

It is as if a bank opens its doors for one day and invites each and every one of us to take as much money as we want, without having to give it back. 

 

What we actually need to do is do some work in our hearts.

1 - release and forgive all those who hurt us.

2 - real commitment to correct ourselves even if it is one negative trait; Then all the barriers will be removed and abundance will flow to us freely. 

 

May we always be a clear and open channel to the flow of abundance coming through us all.

Amen!

HOW TO HEAL A WOUNDED HEART

If we insist on holding on to grudges, we may become so entangled in our past wounds that we completely forget about enjoying the present. 

We get hurt and believe it will last a lifetime. 

We may feel helpless, like there isn't anything we can do about how we feel.

But is that true?

What do we miss along the way?

What do we lose sight of?

The truth is, we are missing out on life - everything about living becomes jeopardized, from our health to our relationships, all the way to our overall success in life. 

If we don't get past our pain and hurt, we invariably tend to carry it with us where ever we go - it becomes part of who we are. 

Once we move to a place of forgiveness, we can finally heal and begin to live. 

We were all created by love, our job is to preserve it within us. 

Set yourself free from the confines you have built around your heart, and be free to love again.

HOW TO SOLVE MY PROBLEMS

Do you want to solve your problems?

Is what you're doing now helping you? 

If not, why do you keep doing it?

It's not about the event that happened or the person you are having an issue with - you can't  change what had occurred ...

You need to realize that the REAL problem is YOU!

Why?

Because nothing will change in your life until YOU do! 

You can grumble and moan, complain and suffer, until you decide to actually do something about the way you feel! 

No tips, no strategy, no product and no information will ever help you overcome or undo your problems.

Until you accept them, learn from them and finally do something different to change your current situation.

If you don't, you will repeat the same experiences over and over again... 

Nothing will change Until you YOURSELF is different!

When you get that, you'll stop running around aimlessly. 

It's never about any single problem you may have, it's  about changing your  relationship with it.

WHEN YOU CHANGE THE WAY YOU LOOK AT THINGS, THE THINGS YOU LOOK AT CHANGE!  

FORGIVENESS IS FREEDOM

Forgiveness doesn't mean you approve of the wrong in the past, whether it had been self inflicted or done to you by others. 

Who is for forgiveness for and what do we gain by it? 

Forgiveness is for YOU - it  frees you from the shackles of the past, so you can move forward with your life.  

You can't do anything to change what once happened, so you might as well accept it. 

Some form of the pain will probably be a part of you forever - you can choose to live in perpetual pain by reliving the circumstances, or you can choose to let go, learn from it and grow. 

Continued suffering, just doesn't make any sense. 

Thinking of a painful past, is robbing you of the present moment - from the real you. 

You are NOT your anger, you are NOT your resentment, you are NOT your pain - identifying with these emotions will only cause you harm.

When you finally forgive, things won't always end up exactly the way you want, but at least you've done what you could, and it's no longer upon you. 

You have done your part - you've released yourself - now, you are free. 

SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO JUMP

Your life begins where your comfort zone ends! 

There's no other way of going about it - in order to achieve a happy and fulfilling life; the kind of life that makes you grow and expand beyond your expectations, you must "jump in the water" and start swimming.

Staying in your limited, constraining "cubical", won't get you very far!

However, once you begin making your way in the seemingly "foreign pond", you will soon discover that it wasn't as bad as you thought it would be.

Take all your past experiences, learn from them, and use this knowledge to do better next time. 

Increase the possibility of something great happening in your life, take the initiative - move forward with confidence.

Don't sit around waiting for something to happen, things don't just happen on their own ...

Do not underestimate the power of taking one small step in the direction of your dreams.

Sometimes that's all it takes, one step ....

Take action - no matter how small - the universe will step up and start shifting circumstances to your favor.