Anger is an emotional and physical response that occurs when triggered by external stimuli, manifested by sensations of pain, discomfort, threat, etc.
When we perceive in our minds wrongful behavior by others and consequently feel anger, the source reason for the irritability may be subconscious, rather than pertaining to our current situation.
The reaction to what is happening around us, depends upon our interpretation. When we are quick to respond, it is as if an invisible button is pressed and we may automatically feel the need to defend ourselves. Our behavior is a direct reflection of the choices we make.
What can you do in a moment of anger?
Stop - Do not let the pot stirring within you boil over! Granted, it's not easy, but it is achievable. The more you practice, the better you'll become at controlling yourself.
Focus - shift the focus from yourself to the person in front of you - what happened to him? I wonder why he is acting this way?
Do not take things personally; look at every situation as an opportunity to learn something about yourself.
Faith - the more self-absorbed a person is, the more anxious and impatient he'll be. The less worried about his personal affairs, (why do I deserve this, why me, etc.) having complete confidence that God is in charge, will decrease anger, fear, worry and tension.
Observing - spend time getting to know and understand yourself better. Ask yourself what is really bothering me? What triggered me?
Gratitude - see the good in everything.
Fulfillment - realize the opportunity for improvement and self-development.
Life Lessons - there are no coincidences; There is a reason for everything.
Acceptance - see pain, trouble and sorrow as a way to purify yourself from iniquities of the past (karma). This is an opportunity to transcend and embrace a spiritual and healthier outlook on life.
Expand your point of view - develop the ability to see the big picture - when triggered, ask, "What will I gain in contrast to what I could lose if I allow myself to become angry?
What is healthier, to be relaxed and calm or irritable and cranky?
Do I have to be angry? Does it help me ??
Negative emotions over a long period of time can be harmful to our health. The amount of white blood cells decrease and the immune system becomes compromised. This may result in the development of various diseases.
On the other hand, when we control negative emotions we become healthier in body and mind. We have self-control, are more loving, warm, calm, accepting and understanding.
Practical Tools For Dealing With Anger:
Pay attention to your body language - Are you frowning and looking furious?
Force yourself to smile - This will bring about a physiological change to help you overcome the internal turmoil.
When someone makes you angry, avoid eye contact. This will give you time to relax and relieve tension.
Keep a journal - Take a moment to write what you feel in order to neutralize your response. This will give you sufficient time to process and become more rational.
Choose to release anger. Choose to be free and happy.
with love
Estee 💟
Estee Levinson, Relationship Communication Strategist - Creating harmonious communication, one relationship at a time.
